Candy Crush – leave me alone! … No come back.. No go!

So today I was sitting at Tim Horton’s for lunch. Even though I was only there for 15 minutes, in these 15 min. I watched how one police car swung by the drive-in, then another, then another! I laughed and told my friend that I thought the police must have a doughnut addiction! We laughed and talked about weird addictions and I even google’ed it when I came home and there I found something strange – Internet Addiction Disorder.

The newest now accepted disorder – wow that’s crazy isn’t it?

 

Have a look at my Storify about the disorder; it sums up some of the views and facts about the disorder: http://storify.com/StineRathcke/internet-addiction-disorder-iad

Did you watch it – what do you think?

So my main theme this couple of weeks has been focused on looking at the positive, negative and mostly humoristic consequences of using the Internet and the smartphone 24/7. But I never realized that something this serious would happened if you were using the Internet too much. Are you a bit worried too? So I searched the Internet (wee, way to go on the subject of Internet addiction! I wonder if it is even possible to look this disease up in a book?!), and look for some of the signs of being an Internet addict. The addiction covers a variety of impulse-control problem and the most common are:

(Source: http://www.helpguide.org/mental/internet_cybersex_addiction.htm)

  • Cybersex Addiction – compulsive use of Internet pornography, adult chat rooms, or adult fantasy role-play sites impacting negatively on real-life intimate relationships.
  • Cyber-Relationship Addiction – addiction to social networking, chat rooms, texting, and messaging to the point where virtual, online friends become more important than real-life relationships with family and friends.
  • Net Compulsions – such as compulsive online gaming, gambling, stock trading, or compulsive use of online auction sites such as eBay, often resulting in financial and job-related problems.
  • Information Overload – compulsive web surfing or database searching, leading to lower work productivity and less social interaction with family and friends.
  • Computer Addiction – obsessive playing of off-line computer games, such as Solitaire or Minesweeper, or obsessive computer programming.

     

Sooo.. This is bad, I could recognized myself in some of them.

Especially the Information Overload – every f****ing time that I have to do a very important exam I spend too much time on Facebook trying to forget what I actually should be doing, and Computer Addiction – one word … Candy Crush..

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What about you? Would love if you would post a comment on your Internet Addiction Disorder – if mine were Candy Crush, which is yours? J

When are you YOU?

So I thought about the movie I made last week, hope you liked it, and wondered if the use of the phone and the internet in social situations are a good thing or not. Off course its not nice to step in a rain pit or almost get run over by a car cause your so into the newest Facebook update (don’t know what I’m talking about? Find the video I posted on 12. of March).

But there is also good things about being social online and skip out the physical world for just a minute or two, right?

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Ever been in this situation?

 I started thinking about the people who are not normally social in the physical world but find mutual minded friends online in virtual worlds and games. I found this inspiration when I went trough my bookshelf and found Sherry Turkle and her book Life on the Screen – Identity in the Age of the Internet. Turkle is like me wondering how social media and the ubiquitous aspect of the Internet is changing us. She writes that the Internet has definitely changed our views on physical relationships to each other and changed the views on our self. But most importantly the Internet and especially the change to be anonymous give us a golden opportunity to play with our identity online. So when people go to social worlds like World of Warcraft, Second Life etc. we can play with our identity and a rather shy person in the psychical world can now be the inner war princes, bad ass, what do I know. That can’t be a bad thing or can it?

Now, have you ever seen the show on MTV Catfish?

The show is basically about a team helping young people who has fallen in love online and now wonders if the person they fell in love with is actually real or not. Sadly, most of the people behind the Facebook profile, avatar etc. does not exist and is basically a made up figure by a middle-aged housewife, a young boy, and on and on. Watch the show and you will see. The people on the show are always really sad when they are told the truth about their true love.

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In this sense being social online and play with your identity will actually harm others. Sherry Turkle also shares this concern cause she is afraid young people will not be able to distinguish between real physical relationships and being social online. She asks:

“Are we living the life on screen, or the life in the screen?” What do you think?

To this very serious question I want to spice your mood up a little bit. So Turkle is concerned if it changes our views on relationships and in this way also in friendship. I stumbled upon this great blogger TheSecretBlogger who writes, “I don’t like all of my online friends” – take a look here: http://www.tots100.co.uk/2013/07/18/the-secret-blogger-i-dont-like-all-my-online-friends/. Skærmbillede 2014-03-18 kl. 22.25.17

She hilariously describes how she actually doesn’t like all here friends online and really just want to   un-friend them online but she is to scared to do so and wonders if there are any consequences by it. She   writes: “I find online friends even harder to cut ties with than those in the “real world”. You see, unless   you suddenly start Tweeting under a different name, they will always know you’re there. It’s like turning up to a party in disguise – you wouldn’t do it. So I stay friends online with the people I don’t really like and carry on chatting to them occasionally, to be polite” (July 8th, 2013, The Secret Blogger).  I found the blog so cute and it made me think how i value ALL of my online friends and if I dear to un-friend them or not. What do you do?

Well by the end of this I guess I’m just wondering, where do you find your true friends and when are you the real YOU – online, in the physical world, or both?

A walk with the phone?

Have you ever counted how many times you use your phone during the day? I started counting the other day, but gave up!

I realized how my phone is not just a phone but my alarm clock in the morning, my timer when I boil my egg, my watch during the day, my calculator, my GPS when I get lost but most importantly its my “social-awkward-exit-strategy” (and yes, I made that awesome word up by myself).

By my “social-awkward-exit-strategy” I mean all the situations during the day when your phone really is the best thing to have in your hand! Like taking in the crowded bus to school in the morning – where to look? It’s always super awkward to get eye contact with the stranger which lap you are almost sitting on – perfect to have the phone and then avoid eye contact at all! But then I went to school and realized I’m not the only one using this strategy – everybody at school uses their phone on their way from one class to another, and then outside school when people are waiting for the red light to shift, and then and then and then.

I thought about this for quite a while and was pretty worried about this.

Since it is so easy to be online all the time and almost everybody owns a smartphone it is soooo compelling just to take a little peak on Twitter, Facebook etc. when you are on your way from A to B during the day. I decided to make a video of a typical day were someone is getting from A to B – off course with his phone in his hands. How much do you think he notices on his way home – nature, people, traffic or just the latest status update on Facebook?

Take a look and perhaps you should look up from your phone the next time, otherwise you might end up in a rain pit too ;)

Who do you tell all your biggest secrets to?

If you had a huge secret whom would you share it with – your best friend since high school, your mom, dad? Or would you tell it anonymous to a group of complete strangers?

One of the biggest trends right now is to share your secrets anonymously online. I must admit I’m a real sucker for all the sites and apps I can find with this theme. Though I have never shared a secret myself I’m a really in to reading other people’s secrets – but its kind of weird or no?

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From Postsecret.com

I have to admit that it’s a regular routine for me to check my app Whisper that can also be found on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/WhisperApp) every morning before I get out of bed. If I’m bored I sometimes go to the “mother” of all secrets sites, Postscret.com, who started the whole trend back in 2005. In the evening I happily put on my favourite TV-show, Gossip Girl, which also has the secret sharing as a main focus. I just realized from writing this that I am totally addicted to other people secrets? I’m even kind of embarrassed now to admit that I am also the creator and administrator of a Danish secret site called Voresonlinehemmelighed.dk (translated: Ouronlinesecret). But why do others and I even find this interesting, we don’t know these people and never will? And why do people even share their secrets to begin with?

Gossip Girl - favorite show of all times!

Gossip Girl – favorite show of all times!

Why share your secret?

The great thing about having the Internet as your best friend and tell all your secrets there is that the Internet is a friend you can really trust. The possibility to be anonymous makes you certain that your secret will never be related to you and that the Internet will have “your back” all the time.

But why do some people do this? Is it a substitute for real psychical friendships or is it just a possibility to share all the things you wouldn’t even share with your best physical friend? If the first one is true it is kind of worrying to me, if people are starting to choose anonymous and unfamiliar people online instead of physical friendships. But I can also see a really good point in that people can meet on a “common ground”, no one is judging you cause most of the people on the site or app are all there for the same reason as you – to share a secret, no matter what kind of secret or what the reason is to tell their secret online.

To me all this is okay, as long no harm is done and I find it really positive if some people can find relief in sharing or reading secrets.

But today my roommate showed me a huge trend going on in Singapore, which concerns med a lot. It is a site on Facebook where student from The National University of Singapore text in secrets about their fellow students, which is later, posted anonymous on the wall by the administrators of the page. Look here: https://www.facebook.com/nusconfessions?fref=ts.

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NUS Confessions (National University of Singapore)

It’s really like Gossip Girl just in real life! But that’s what makes it really scary right? Is it just people having fun or is it online bullying?

The Internet is great for many things and I still don’t know why I fell so drawn to other people’s secrets, but I see both negative and positive sides at this trend. What about you?

Who do you tell your biggest secrets to and whom do you trust the most – your best friend or the Internet?

Internet I <3 U!

 

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Welcome to my blog and this first blog post!
Are you really in to technology and social media? Then keep on reading I hope you will enjoy!

Let me start by asking, how would you describe your best friend?

Let me guess: someone who is always there for you, day and night. Someone you can tell all your secrets to, without ever have to wonder if your secrets are told to anybody else. Someone you can have great experiences with. Who knows what you like and not like. That sounds like a really good friend right? Best thing is, we all have that best friend – it’s the Internet!!

What do you think – am I totally on a wrong track here?

The Internet is all around us, we can go online almost every second, we use it for multiple daily tasks throughout the day, we talk and meet witch each other online and so on and so on. Through this blog I want to put forth the question how the Internet affects us human beings, both in our direct interaction with the computer but also in our interaction between people in the physical world. Also how online communities and especially the popular creation of volatile communities will or will not benefit the humans in the creation of self-identity. This blog will therefore be focusing on the gap between physical and online life and discuss the impact of present and future technology on the formation of identity, communities, culture and much more. The more technology grow the greater impact it will have on our society that is why we need to understand this influence. We need to understand the gap between body and mind, to understand what the computer does for us but e specially what it does to us.

But why do I care and why should you care?

I was born in 1990, so I am a part of what writer Dan Tapscott calls the Net Generation. The Net Generation are people born between 1977 and 1998 and this is the first generation that grew up with social medias and Tapscott describes in his book “Grown Up Digital. How the net generation is changing your world” (2009) how this upbringing has had a deep impact on how this generation thinks and acts. But most importantly the Net Generation grew up with a constant impact by rapidly changing technologies that affected their lives thoroughly. As a result nowadays´ permanent shift in technology is not a challenge for this generation as they adapt very quickly and naturally. This characteristic is rather beneficial for this generation, however it might represent a threat, as they do not realize the effects of this constant development in technology. But is this only a positive effect or is it a negative one?

I hope by reading this blog you will stop and think about your use of the Internet – I know I will.

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